ASK V: I think my husband has a porn addiction

ASK V: I think my husband has a porn addiction

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Dear V,

I think my husband has a porn addiction. It’s like this messy secret that he won’t even talk about. And I’m starting to wonder it is affecting his ability to “perform.” I love him deeply, but we’re seriously too young for this. We’re still in our twenties and we’re practically newlyweds. So how would this even be possible?

Too young for this in Cleveland

Dear Too Young,

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) is a real condition. More than a decade ago, Kinsey Institute researchers were among the first to report PIED and an abnormally low libido brought on by overuse of pornography. If your husband does have PIED, you are not alone. Of course if the condition is not related to PIED, he’ll want to consult his doctor in order to rule out all other medical conditions: stress, depression, diabetes, low testosterone, hypoactive sexual desire (HSD) or sexual aversion disorder (SAD), and more.

According to a recent study, PIED is, not surprisingly, on the rise. While there’s still controversy over whether excessive use of pornography constitutes an addiction, if it is promoting secrecy, dishonesty and lack of interest in physical intimacy – that alone is sure to sabotage your relationship. Being honest about the issue is the first step toward recovery and restoration of a healthy relationship.

I can tell you, from personal experience, that both parters involved in a relationship that has been compromised by pornography need professional support – individually and together. And while my relationship did not survive, I do know of a number of relationships that have survived, recovered and are thriving. My hope for you is a relationship based on openness, honesty – the only way to true intimacy.

V


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